You really don’t have to explain much. Normally when we cut it’s for many many different reasons. Be it something someone said or did to you that day, it could be depression, tragedies, heartbreak etc. All they need to know is that you were hurting enough to start. You don’t have to discuss every detail of why you cut, unless you want to. In fact you don’t have to tell them at all. You could talk to a therapist or psychologist instead. Whatever you would be more comfortable with. You had mentioned that they were scars.. I don’t know if that means you have stopped or if you are still cutting. If you are still cutting, then please try to accept any help you are offered. If you have stopped, and know that you don’t have that urge anymore, then just explain that to them. Make sure they understand and show them that there are no fresh ones, they need to know you are done with it.
I don’t want to post it on here because the last time I did that I got a ton of prank phone calls. If you come off anonymous I can get to know you or at the very least know your name. It’s just easier for me to do it this way :)
This is a really awkward question for me, but I’m going to answer it.
The reason it is awkward is because I haven’t stopped. As ashamed as I am to admit that, it’s the truth. I can tell you though that I have gotten better. I went a good 6 months without a single mark and then life took a turn for the worst. You’re probably thinking “well she hasn’t stopped so why should I take her advice?” …because I’ve been there. I know what it takes to stop, and I know the struggle you face trying not to relapse.
You’re already off to a good start. You said yourself “I want to stop”. It takes a strong individual to know that they have a problem and to seek help for it. That’s what it’s going to take. This isn’t something you should battle on your own. Any kind of support you can get right now is key. Talk to a therapist or counselor, tell someone you trust, but don’t try and fix yourself.
When I was in over my head with cutting, I had a good friend of mine come over and clean out all temptations from my home. Razors, pins, blades, knives etc. Whatever you can do to remove the temptation from your life you should do. It will make life easier in the long run. DO NOT try to get rid of everything yourself. Especially if you are feeling really low at the time. It will only tempt you. However, if you are feeling strong and you feel as though that this is what you need to do to move on, then go for it. Not everyone is the same and we all deal with situations differently. I am merely suggesting.
I don’t really have the support of a family to help me overcome this, and I’m not really friends with many people in my town. I have mostly been relying on the support from those I talk to on here, and I’m not even sure they know this. If you are like me and don’t have a large support group, then you must find one. Make friends with people on here, there are forums you can find that deal with this very subject. It allows you to converse with people in the same situation. Support is all over, you just have to find it.
I would like to make a promise to you. Which I know is weird since I don’t even know who you are. My promise is that I will fight this, as long as you fight it too. Meaning that we can do this together, “spiritually” at least. I am here anytime of day for moral support. If you feel like you are slipping and you need someone to keep you stable, message me. I will even give you my phone number if you come off anonymous.
This isn’t just for this person. If ANY of you feel like you’re struggling and you just can’t make it on your own, message me. I am here and I truly mean that. If you know for a fact that you can’t, and you need someone now, privately message me and I will give you my number and my email.
We all have only one life to live, so live it to the fullest. Take nothing for granted.
Okay, I’m getting emotional. I hope this helped at least a tiny bit. Take care my lovely anon and please talk to me if you need someone.
I always keep them private. You have my word. I will tell no one. Morbid and dark doesn’t bother me, I have heard a lot and seen alot in my life. I’m not easily scared away. Like I said, I don’t judge, I am only hear to listen and attempt to help. Whatever has happened or whatever you have done is none of my business, and it will always stay confidential.
This could be many things. Let me ask a few questions first.
Does the scar feel warm to the touch? Is it sensitive or does it hurt at all? Is there any swelling or any discharge?
There could be an infection or bleeding underneath the scar, and if that is the case then you need to seek out medical attention as soon as you can. I have a few deep scars and when my body is cold they seem to turn a little purple in color. I’m not saying that this is normal or that it is what is happening to you, but I can say that it has happened for years. They don’t hurt and haven’t caused me any trouble. I would suggest you get it checked. I know you are probably trying to avoid going to the doctor or the hospital because you don’t want to have to explain it. I’ve been there, but if it’s damaging to your health then you need to get it taken care of. Remember that I am not a doctor and I cannot tell you what the real problem is. I’m just sharing what I know from personal experience. If it is only discoloration of the skin, you can buy some ointment or lotion that will help reduce the visibility of the scar.
Now as for the cutting part. Please tell me that you have stopped? I know how hard it is to and how easily you can relapse, but cutting is never the answer to anything. Talk to me, whatever you need to say, I won’t judge. I’m just here to listen and help in any way that I can. You can come off anonymous and we can just talk about anything at all. If it would help you, I will share my struggles with cutting, maybe we can help each other. Otherwise, please take care of the scars and keep a close eye on them. If it gets worse, don’t wait to have it looked at. In my honest opinion though, I really think you will be okay.
Talk to the person you are living with, explain what you are going through. If they are understanding, they will have no problem keeping the pills out of your sight. If they aren’t someone you can easily talk to then be firm with them. Tell them you need the pills removed from the bathroom for personal reasons. Don’t move them yourself. If niether of these solutions work, call a friend or someone you trust to hide the pills for you and then have them tell the person you are living with where they are. Temptation is hard. I understand completely, I was in the same predicament just last month. My roommate is not the friendliest person in the world, so I had to “lay down the law” and tell her to move them or I’m tossing them out the window. I didn’t explain why I needed them moved I just told her to move them. I’m pretty sure she caught on to why I needed that to happen, but it got done. Do whatever you must to get them out of your sight. Just remove the temptation and try talking to someone or distracting yourself when you feel depressed. Make it so you won’t even be thinking of them. I’m always here if you would like to message me when you get the urge again. Stay strong!
You are even more beautiful. Thank you so much for the nice comment. I hope you have a fantastic day or night. Wherever you may be ;)
I wouldn’t give them any advice. I would ask them if they want to talk and I would do my best to listen and understand where they are coming from. A lot of the time, people just want to be heard. They don’t want to hear “everything is going to be fine” or “it gets better”. The truth is sometimes it doesn’t, and during those times we just need to lean a bit on others to help us stay afloat.